They give away any kind of power they have in the relationship, which creates a power imbalance, with the needy person becoming subordinate to her (or his) partner.
Neediness does work in short term relationships and at the beginning of long relationships.
Even lavishing your partner with gifts or compliments that are out of proportion to what you’re receiving is a form of clinginess.
Also, pay attention to your body when you don’t get the response you’re seeking, such as when he doesn’t pick up when you call or she doesn’t text you back right away. If so, it’s probably time to take a deep breath and take your foot off the emotional gas pedal. People who have well-rounded lives—and are getting emotional needs met through a variety of activities, people, and communities—are much less likely to feel needy or become too clingy. Don’t barrage your partner with ten texts to every one of hers, or ten phone calls to each of his.
I’m trying to stay in control and not text him more than twice a day or nag him on messenger if he doesn’t want to talk for very long. Don’t worry so much about doing things that will appear needy. There’s nothing wrong with being nervous or excited about a guy. But when you believe that you’re not enough for him, or that he will give you something special that you don’t already have within yourself or that he’s the key to your happiness, then that is being in a needy mindset. Another way you can spot the “needy” mindset is when you notice that you’re starting to fear losing him.
The only thing is, I’m afraid I’m holding back too much. You can avoid ever being needy when you just make sure to live a full, interesting and engaging life that you love regardless of whether or not you’re in a relationship. I’m going to throw a concept out there that’s going to sound a bit “against the grain” compared to all of the crap you hear from the Hollywood and music industries.
Changing your clingy ways isn’t just about giving your partner space, it’s also about creating space for yourself and distancing yourself from some of those driving, distressing emotions. If you stop being so clingy and your love interest remains elusive or continues to pull away, have the courage to move on. Just as the person you fall in love with deserves the chance to be part of a cohesive couple, so do you.
Realizing that your partner’s need for space isn’t unreasonable—that it’s good for you, too—can help you loosen your grip.
People who are not needy would end a relationship if they felt like that. People who have a needy partner can do whatever they want because although needy people complain, they don't leave.I’ve been seeing this guy who I really like for about two weeks now.He really is the perfect guy and has everything I want in a guy. These are good indicators that you may be in the clingy zone. If your sweetheart is craving space, the signs include less eye contact, less physical touch, shallow or brief conversations and a “keep your distance” posture like crossed legs or arms. Sign up for a class, join a small group, or pursue a passion or talent that is yours and yours alone. A good rule of thumb is to match—not exceed—the energy, attention, and effort your partner is investing in your relationship. When we’re convinced we’re not getting “enough” from a partner and we’re starving for more, it’s natural to become clingy. Feed your need—for conversation, companionship, affirmation, whatever—from more than one source.